By Silas Nyanchwani via fb
I have a Kiuk friend who often jokes how their women participate in the stereotypes that downgrade them. Back in University, some or most Central ladies studiously avoided their boys, prompting one professor from Central Kenya to aks what makes Western Kenya men such an attraction to Central Kenyan ladies…
Back in Kisii, there are a good number of girls who hate us Kisii men because we lean more towards misogyn and hate ‘treating them’.
I have publicly stated that if I would, I would whip Luo men for ‘spoiling’ our girls. And I have warned my Kisii sisters to avoid Luo men like a plague. But advice is always lost in the young.
Part of my beef with Luo men is personal and part of it is rational. A Luo boss can fly the office slay queen to Dubai, Mauritius and spoil her with poetry, when I as a Kisii, I itch at buying a Del Monte… If you meet a girl who has ever dated a Luo, she can have very unrealistic expectations in life.
I once dated one such and I would suggest, Leo tuende Mojo’s, and she would ask, “Do people still go to Mojo’s?” Ama the more insulting one, “That place is still there, I haven’t been in town for ages…”
Here is the thing about dating across tribe: it doesn’t matter. What you should resist always is to put your people down.
Luo men need not denigrate their women and Luo women need not be bitter towards their men.
Truth is, there is always someone out there for everyone. Whether he or she is from your tribe no longer matters.
Save for our arcane politics, I think we now live in the post-tribal zone. I have been to more ruracious in Central than to Kisii. And that to me is a good thing.
